PinnedMember-onlyThe Real Problem When 46-Year-Old Women Are Crying in Their CarsAnd it isn’t because we’re single — Last month, a 46-year-old woman posted a video of herself on TikTok sharing a tearful story about her impending surgery and how much it has brought the pain she feels about being single into focus. Her problem? She has no one to take care of her but her mother and…Singles8 min readSingles8 min read
1 day agoMember-onlyJust Another Monday Morning with Low EstrogenAn ode to perimenopause — or is it a rant? — Okay, I’m done. It’s 8:30 on a Monday morning and I’m done. I was done yesterday. In fact, I was done on Saturday. Yeah. I knew I was done before this week even started. Why? Because my estrogen levels are in the Mariana Trench right now — like Challenger Deep…Perimenopause9 min readPerimenopause9 min read
3 days agoMember-onlyStop Giving Unsolicited Reproductive Advice to Childless WomenDespite what the government thinks, a woman’s uterus is her own business — I made a TikTok post last month about childlessness and immediately got a response from someone who asked why I hadn’t considered adopting. “There are so many kids in need of a good home,” she said. “Why wouldn’t you consider helping one of them?” Not to lean on a cliché…Feminism7 min readFeminism7 min read
6 days agoMember-onlyWhy We Should Be Prepared for HIPAA to FallWith lawmakers criminalizing aspects of healthcare for women and trans people, there’s only one inevitable outcome — I have become an annoyance to my doctors. On my last three visits to my primary care physician and gynecologist, I refused to tell them when my last period was. At almost 47, my periods are not regular anymore. And with the continued push for stricter abortion laws across the…Feminism8 min readFeminism8 min read
Mar 15Member-onlyWhat a Pelvic Exam Taught Me About Falling in LoveWho knew that a speculum could become a tool of awakening? — “Your blood pressure is a bit high, but I’m guessing that’s probably due to anxiety about being here.” I glanced at the exam table where she had placed the gown and paper sheet and grimaced. “I’ve come to realize I’ll never outgrow my discomfort with a pelvic exam, no matter…Feminism8 min readFeminism8 min read
Mar 13Member-onlyIf Men Get Viagra, Shouldn’t Women Get Abortion Pills?These strange bedfellows turn out to be perfect mates, if you dare to look closely — “If we don’t get abortion pills, they don’t get Viagra.” I saw the comment on one of my TikTok posts and shouted “Fuck yes!” into the quiet of my workspace. I don’t know exactly what the commenter meant by it, but it felt like an excellent philosophical point to me. …Feminism8 min readFeminism8 min read
Mar 10Member-onlyThink You Can’t Get Roofied Through an Online Encounter? Think Again…Chemical persuasion has evolved in a world that’s moved into digital territory — Are you a woman partaking in the online dating scene? Or perhaps a woman simply existing on the internet? Maybe you are a content creator? Or you have your social media pages open to the public? In any of these scenarios, you’ve likely experienced The Come On. It’s a coordinated…Women8 min readWomen8 min read
Mar 8Member-onlyWhy I’m Ready to Call Myself the 46-Year-Old VirginIt’s time to get back to basics — but not the way you think… — Virgin. I learned what the word meant as a very young child, at the Christian grade school I attended. We learned the story about the Virgin Mary over and over and finally one day, someone asked, “What does virgin mean?” The answer was somehow both vague and specific: “It means…Women6 min readWomen6 min read
Mar 6Member-onlyWhat You Need to Know If Your Wife Has Opted Out of SexIf you’re operating on the usual assumption, nothing’s going to change… — “I haven’t had sex with my wife in years. She lost interest a long time ago. It’s miserable for me. But I guess that’s the way of it. Men and women are made totally differently. There’s no fighting biology.” I can’t count how many times I’ve received comments or even…Feminism7 min readFeminism7 min read
Mar 3Member-onlyWhat Would Happen in a World Without Viagra?Is it a nightmare beyond imagining…or a new frontier for male sexuality? — “Eighty year old bros can impregnate. Eighty year old women ain’t getting pregnant.” I laughed when I saw this comment on one of my TikTok videos. Wow, do some men love to brag about how much power they believe resides in the almighty cock. It’s like a gun that never…Health7 min readHealth7 min read
