How women are weeping for all the wrong reasons — It was eighteen months after the breakup and there I was, crying to my therapist about him. Again. I was in so much pain, I felt like I could barely breathe. I couldn’t seem to shake the memories of his sweet smile, or the way he called me “love.” I…

The most unexpected love affair I’ve ever had — Okay, Swifties, move over. New member to the club incoming! I know, I know, I’m 47. And a half. I realize I might be the oldest person here. And as far as I can see, I’m at least ten years late to the party. How did this happen, you ask…

When are we going to be honest about the trauma caused by entitlement in the marriage bed? — “Why did you marry him if you didn’t want to have sex with him?” This is one of the most common questions I see men asking the women in my comment sections. I wish I could say I expect readers to be shocked by the audacity of asking strangers such…

What would it be like not to have to be grateful or repentant for taking up space? — There it was, on the very top shelf in the garden center at Home Depot: the pot that I needed for a plant I had recently purchased. It was only six inches out of my reach. I stretched. I jumped. I stretched again. But I just couldn’t reach it. Right…

There’s not a single standard I can meet anymore — thank god — It was only four years ago that I sat here on my couch with my best friend, Sunny, and we talked until late into the night about our romantic aspirations. We were both scared — neither of us had experienced a relationship in which we hadn’t been abused or betrayed…

I’m happy for Taylor, too, but this is getting out of hand… — “Karma is the guy on the Chiefs coming straight home to me.” These are the words that have rung across the world so often in the past week that anyone who has never heard this song, now knows it by heart. As I flip through social media, I cannot seem…

The question that made me realize I’ve been far too well-behaved — “What the fuck are you doing?” I had come back to the duplex for the first time since the breakup. I’d called ahead so he knew I was coming. …

Let’s tackle the beast of male entitlement — “I’m not moving until you agree to go out for a drink with me.” This is one of the most chilling things a man ever said to me. It might sound innocuous enough (and I’ll circle back to that in a moment), but given the circumstances, it was terrifying. Eric…

Exploring the critical intersection of creativity, community, and career — I was recently approached by Melissa Wandrei, who told me about her new publication, Lived In, and invited me to contribute a piece. As you can imagine, writers get lots of requests like this and I didn’t think much of it until I saw the Lived In website. I felt…