Sometimes there is too much, and sometimes too little — “I wanted to reach out, but I’m also trying to give you space. I want to respect your needs.” I read the text over and over. I don’t understand. We haven’t really spoken in months. Not since the “last” talk. He has hardly said a word to me since then. …

It’s guaranteed to bring in the big bucks — Do you want to know how to make a mint on this platform? I’ve finally figured it out. Write something vaguely misogynistic that subtly implicates women as not only the source of our cultural problems, but as the actual authors of this “mythical” patriarchy. I’m guessing this content is seriously…

She is smarter than we are — so when will we stop trying to subordinate Her? — Have you ever stood in the presence of the Colorado River? Most Americans who are acquainted with her met her in the Grand Canyon, where she winds through the awe-inspiring, red and brown rock walls, like a blue ribbon curling into any crevice available. Maybe you stood on a cliffside…

If you think mass shootings or voter repression are problems, then you aren’t paying attention… — It’s happened again. I find myself freshly devastated. This cycle of horror in America never ends. No, I’m not talking about another shooting. (That’s fine, all good, totally normal.) I’m talking about yet another family-centered space being defiled by the presence of female breasts. As I said: the horror is…

Why are we hellbent on pretending we’re so different? — “I have a crazy idea: what if we just watch a movie on Saturday night and hang out?” I was 25 years old, sitting in a Santa Fe restaurant across from my fling-du-jour, an insanely handsome, charismatic musician from Denver named Jay. While exploring my creative side at one of…

What’s more important: men or the mythology of American masculinity? — A month ago, Psychology Today published an article called The Rise of Lonely, Single Men in which author Greg Matos, PsyD calls out the not-so-rosy “reality” of the increasing number of single, lonely men and the “rough road” they have ahead of them, knowing this trend is likely to continue. …

Welcome to the land of the chaste and home of the pure — If you want to have sex, you must accept pregnancy as a consequence. Have you heard? This is the new standard for sexual conduct in America. (Or perhaps always was.) Oh wait, I’m sorry. I forgot to be clear that this is the standard for women. Men can have sex…

What would our world be like if men policed one another’s anger as vehemently as they did women’s? — “I have had to step away from your work in the past few months. I feel your anger has made you cruel. What you write hurts others. You aren’t the gentle person I thought you were.” I’ve gotten emails like this from male readers dozens of times over the past…