When did our lives turn into a talk show intervention? — A year from this autumn will mark the ten-year anniversary of my most significant breakup. I can hardly believe so much time has passed. And I can also hardly believe that I’m still single, when my ex went through at least one marriage (that I know of) since we parted…

Exploring the mythology of a purposefully misappropriated term — If you were to ask me the question I hear most frequently, you might be surprised by the answer. It’s not “Have you met someone yet?” It’s not “Don’t you want to get married someday?” And no, it’s not, “Have you tried adoption?” These are definitely top five contenders, but…

And more importantly…have we been given the chance to like it? — I’ve been on a Viagra kick lately. You’ve probably noticed. I can’t help it. I’m absolutely fascinated. I had no idea there were so many people talking about the psychology of this medication, the social impacts, and the way it affects relationships. Until now, it’s been nothing but a simple…

An ode to perimenopause — or is it a rant? — Okay, I’m done. It’s 8:30 on a Monday morning and I’m done. I was done yesterday. In fact, I was done on Saturday. Yeah. I knew I was done before this week even started. Why? Because my estrogen levels are in the Mariana Trench right now — like Challenger Deep…

Despite what the government thinks, a woman’s uterus is her own business — I made a TikTok post last month about childlessness and immediately got a response from someone who asked why I hadn’t considered adopting. “There are so many kids in need of a good home,” she said. “Why wouldn’t you consider helping one of them?” Not to lean on a cliché…

With lawmakers criminalizing aspects of healthcare for women and trans people, there’s only one inevitable outcome — I have become an annoyance to my doctors. On my last three visits to my primary care physician and gynecologist, I refused to tell them when my last period was. At almost 47, my periods are not regular anymore. And with the continued push for stricter abortion laws across the…

Who knew that a speculum could become a tool of awakening? — “Your blood pressure is a bit high, but I’m guessing that’s probably due to anxiety about being here.” I glanced at the exam table where she had placed the gown and paper sheet and grimaced. …

These strange bedfellows turn out to be perfect mates, if you dare to look closely — “If we don’t get abortion pills, they don’t get Viagra.” I saw the comment on one of my TikTok posts and shouted “Fuck yes!” into the quiet of my workspace. I don’t know exactly what the commenter meant by it, but it felt like an excellent philosophical point to me. …

Chemical persuasion has evolved in a world that’s moved into digital territory — Are you a woman partaking in the online dating scene? Or perhaps a woman simply existing on the internet? Maybe you are a content creator? Or you have your social media pages open to the public? In any of these scenarios, you’ve likely experienced The Come On. It’s a coordinated…