An Interview with Melissa Wandrei & Ryan Nichols About Their New Publication: Lived In

Exploring the critical intersection of creativity, community, and career

Y.L. Wolfe


Nichols & Wandrei (photo used with permission)

I was recently approached by Melissa Wandrei, who told me about her new publication, Lived In, and invited me to contribute a piece. As you can imagine, writers get lots of requests like this and I didn’t think much of it until I saw the Lived In website.

I felt an immediate connection with its vibe and was so inspired by the essays and poems of other writers. Further, their ethos was in alignment with my own, from their interest in community-building to their commitment to seeing writers and artists get paid a fair wage.

I’m so proud to be a part of the Lived In family. My essay, The Labor and Birthing of Middle Age, goes live today, alongside a photography project that right now, I’m simply calling Eggs.

I hope you will visit Lived In to read my essay and see my photography — and be sure to check out the other talented writers and artists while you are there.

And if you want to learn more about this amazing publication…read on!

Y.L. Wolfe: Tell us about the team behind Lived In. Who are you: as people, as artists, as writers, as filmmakers?

Melissa Wandrei: I’ve kept a journal since as long as I can remember. I have notebooks and notebooks filled with childhood words in a trunk somewhere in my mom’s house back in Michigan, and now, in my thirties, I have piles of journals in my own home on the east coast. One day I imagine I’ll have all these pages in one place and I can look at them and feel such contentment that my weird little writer soul has this living record holding everything: this is who I loved, this is what I believed in. This was my life and my voice.

I’ve always been drawn to write stories of relationships and of women. I like to explore mother-daughter relationships, sister love and dynamics, female friendships, and my relationship with myself. One of my favorite things to write, though, is simple poetry about nature. I’ve found that writing is my way of seeing the magic in the ordinary, or what we often see as ordinary until we look a little closer.



Y.L. Wolfe

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