Bruce Wade I don’t know if I could ever have described this in such detail to my partner. Maybe if I had written it in a note… which seems so silly. It is hard for me to talk about, and I still feel a lot of vulnerability around having written this. I imagine many women feel similarly. So many of us were taught to feel ashamed about feeling AND talking about sexual pleasure.

But it’s definitely worth the conversation. I think it’s great that you are opening up this dialogue and being understanding that it might take a lot of patience and time for your wife to be able to open up about it. I have many friends who still cannot even have sex in the light of day with their partners of 15+ years. The shame in them runs so deep.

I hope that she will someday find herself able to open up to you about this.