I cannot handle this kind of language around dating. It feels so toxic to me. Pretty much for all the reasons you outlined. I don't know if I could have said it better!

I think the whole "get and keep the man of your dreams" is so...well, as I said, TOXIC. So so so so toxic and I can't stand hearing women talk like that. It perpetuates this ridiculous idea that we should be prioritizing that. That we should be changing ourselves for that. As you said - why aren't men taught this lesson? Hello!

I am someone who wants to be in my feminine power - but I also want to balance that in my masculine power. And I think talking like this - like going to work and exerting our masculine power is just so exhausting that we need a "truly masculine man" to take care of us afterwards - again...TOXIC. And again, why can't we talk to men like that? Where's their permission to nurture their feminine AND masculine sides? The sexist gender stereotypes here are overwhelming.

And yes, I feel like this way of approaching things is so reductive and even disrespectful to women. We aren't broken-hearted little princesses who need to be saved. Yikes. And guess what, world... Not every woman aspires to be in a heteronormative marriage! GASP! (Not that there's anything wrong with that, but the perpetuation of that assumption just drives me MAD.)

Also...you are a queen, for sure. And beautiful and incredible. To me, it speaks to the brokenness of our system that women like are often the ones who are single. Again, not that there's anything wrong with being single (I mostly love it) - but seriously, we should have dudes lining up outside our front doors hoping to win our hearts.

Most will not be worthy, of course. ;)