I Don’t Want a Good Lover — I Want a Good Love
As it turns out, these things don’t always go together

I was 44 years old by the time I had good sex. I’ve been fortunate that I mostly was able to make it good, even if I didn’t have a lover who cared whether or not it was good for more than just him. But until I was 44, I had never had lovers who were particularly interested in pleasing me while…