I feel like I should set off fireworks here, because this made me SO HAPPY! And just for the record, even if you respected your wife this much but had chosen to end the marriage, I would still be happy. It’s not that you chose to stay that matters to me, but that you recognize your wife’s bodily autonomy. I have found that to be SO RARE. You also share my perspective that we should cultivate a sexual relationship with ourselves first and foremost and that everything else should be built upon that strong foundation. Thank you for this! You made my day!