I feel more and more strongly that for those who choose monogamy, there has to be a deep understand that it is flawed, just like everything else, and that it cannot give us everything - that we have to cultivate friend and family relationships that help sustain us and be willing to deal with some of the downsides, like riding out a partner's diminished sex drive when/if that happens. I totally agree with everything you wrote. It's not that one way is better than the other - we just have to de-romanticize monogamy and be more realistic about it, if that's the path we choose. Love this, love you!