I love how many similarities we have. This really feels very similar to my own preferences, though I call myself pan (after Alice Walker's definition). I feel like my feelings for women are deeply expansive - that there's so much I'd like to explore there and none of it needs definitions or structuress. Yet with men, I tend to lean into them for romantic connections in very specific ways. The way you described this is so fascinating to me and really helps me understand myself better. <3