I love rants, especially about this subject. LOL. I think people get high off of fantasies (which is very normal) but then get so intoxicated that they want to make it real. There's a sex writer over here and hmmm....she writes about sex so she must want to fuck everyone and maybe... Then it's like they can't stop themselves from emailing, DMing, whatever, with questions and propositions and I NEED MORE. Addiction. I think it becomes an addiction.
I'm sorry for all of us who have to deal with that. It is so demoralizing sometimes. It sometimes feels like our work is negating the very reason why we are here doing it. But keep going! I think in the end, so long as we follow our heart, we are on the right track.