I love this so much. I can feel your energy in this and the name thing is orbiting around your identity. No matter what you do, what name you go by, I can still feel the “you” within that.

I just struggle with some of the friends I have who seem to want to merge into their husband’s identity or center their identity on “wifehood.” I guess honestly, it scares me that we live in a culture that encourages that, and encourages that to the point where some women actually WANT it.

That said, it’s none of my business what they want. LOL. Something I didn’t touch on in this piece is that I have lost dozens of friends to marriage. I can’t even count how many friendships ended after someone got married. Sometimes, I don’t know what happened, and other times, they said they couldn’t relate to me anymore because I wasn’t married. So when friends get upset when someone call them Ms. or when they insist on being called Mrs. So-and-so, it makes me fear that’s the end of the line for us.

Obviously, I have issues. LMAO.

Anyways, I love your story and I LOVE your sass. I wish I had been more like you when I was your age. ❤