I share your feelings on this. I didn’t even dip into the ethical dilemma because I knew I wouldn’t have room to explore that. I feel exactly this way, though.
You would laugh so hard if you saw my porn search terms and the wistful hope that goes into choosing them: “romantic porn,” “porn for women with feelings,” “love porn,” “porn with kissing and kindness,” “nipple porn love”… LMAO. I always imagine what happens to all my internet data and how it gets categorized. I’d imagine Google has me pegged as a “romantic-hearted pervert.” That’s a fair assessment.