If FASD is what I think it is, I’m not sure about the correlation here. Do you mean to say it has caused you some difficulty in discerning people’s boundaries and what they are communicating? Do you feel you have been able to express that to women and ask for their help in being extra explicit in communicating their boundaries to you?

To answer your question about helping, first of all, thank you. Secondly, I would say communication, again, might be one of our biggest tools here. Asking questions, sometimes repeatedly — and open-ended. Not “Is this okay?” but “How do you feel about this?” Not “Do you want to give me a blow job?” but “What do you want to do next?” Going slowly. Giving her space to speak up. Showing her a pattern of respecting her boundaries. All of these things are so important.

Thank you for your comment!