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If You Think Sex Is Supposed to Be Painful for Your Female Partner, You Need a Reality Check
Stop normalizing the narrative that sex always hurts for women — and that they should just endure it
I wish there was nothing men could say anymore that would shock me. After six years being an online presence, I’ve heard enough despicable comments that I’m frequently tempted to move to a cave on a remote island where only Amazon warriors dwell.
And yet, I’m sorry to say that every now and then, something men say does, indeed shock me — enough to shake me up and force me to take a moment to gather myself.
In fact, it just happened recently, when I wrote an article about how differently we treat the sexual health of men and women over 40. Or rather, that we don’t address that for women over 40, at all, but expect them to accommodate the restored sexual functions of their aging husbands who are privileged to have access to interventions like Viagra…and then we blame women for being frigid and withholding when in fact, we’re just on the receiving end of a medical community (and society) that doesn’t care enough to address our sexual issues.
When I checked the comments the next day (something I try not to do too often for reasons that are about to…
