Jim, I never talked about it with my first partners — it wasn’t until the last one, who was very open about it that I could start to open up about it.

I am shocked that even to this day, people are very sensitive about masturbation and fantasies. I think the greatest thing about self-pleasure is that it’s kinda a “no boundaries” zone. You can think of who you want, have any fantasy that pleases you and no one cares, because it’s just you! LOL.

I don’t know why people get uptight about the idea of someone fantasizing about them during masturbation. It’s flattering! LOL. And in a relationship, I absolutely LOVED it when my last partner told me he thought of me when he was having fun with himself. I found that very sexy.