Mathew A Thank you for your comment. I totally understand what you are saying and I hear you. I have seen the same thing — whether it was my male or female friends, I often heard of the imbalance in sex drive — most commonly where the woman had less and the man had more and was frustrated.

But what I don’t think people are hearing or getting is that women’s sex drives are directly related to how we have been conditioned to express our sexuality. When you feel sexually disempowered — as SO MANY WOMEN DO — how can you want to have sex? When you are taught that your body and your sexual desire is shameful, how can you allow yourself to feel and act upon that desire?

I’m talking about really, really deep conditioning here that has changed the way women think in ways that affect how we behave physically. So until we truly unpack that, until women are truly sexually empowered, how can we really know how much sex they actually want?

Now that I’m in my 40’s, I know tons of women who have been able to release decades of shame around their sexuality who say their sex drive is now off the charts. Why? Because they are free to allow themselves to feel that way. Many of them said they didn’t even know they had this drive in them — they assumed they were just disinterested in sex…because they were TAUGHT to be.

I hope that makes sense. I’m going to argue this one to my grave. LOL. I believe, sincerely, that women — most women — have a much higher sex drive than men think. I believe they, themselves, don’t even recognize it because again — they’ve been taught to repress it.

So let’s work to empower women as much as we can and see what happens… ;)

Thank you for sharing your story and engaging in a friendly debate. I hope, for all our sake, and especially for the frustrated men out there, that I am right. ;)