Okay, first of all, this is EXACTLY what I was searching to say in this piece and I just couldn’t quite get to these words. I should’ve asked you! LOL. Secondly, I couldn’t agree more. I feel like there’s so much judgment on women post-breakup — like “Why aren’t you friends? Can’t you forgive and move on?” But if there’s no effort to work out the thing that caused the issue in the first place, then I don’t see any point in trying to be friends. That just feels like handing out free passes to me.

I can be loving from a distance. I can let go and also not forgive.