Okay, I think I know who you are, now. ;) I am not arguing against working on things. I mentioned that several times here and have mentioned that in previous essays, as well. But not for the goal of getting sex back. (Again, that springs up naturally.) I think sometimes sexual dynamics just change, and there’s not always anything to be done about it. And in those cases, the couple has to decide on what to do. Accept it? Open the relationship? End it? It’s all very personal and complicated and there’s no easy answer.