OMG. I have been through this so many times, I can't even tell you. As a Gen Xer, this was taught to me. Be pleasant. Don't say no. If it happens, you asked for it.

I often wonder what it would be like to gather all the women who have been in situations like this and just hold each other's hands. We'd probably be able to wreath the planet, standing side by side, hand to hand. <3