Rachel Taylor First of all, thank you SO much for this thoughtful, generous comment that helped me see a bigger picture. Though I and so many of my female friends and relatives have experienced some level of sexual trauma, our experiences manifested in any number of different ways and what you shared (so vulnerably and honestly — thank you) did not occur to me as a potential reason for faking orgasms. Honestly, it never crossed my mind that there might be different reasons than what I had heard from my friends who did it.

Secondly, I do apologize if this article came off as shaming. As a feminist aspiring toward sex-positivity (I still have a lot to unpack— as you can see!) I never, never want my fellow women to feel shamed by something I said. That’s pretty much the opposite of what I’m here for. I am grateful that you pointed this out to me, for that reason.

I am going to make an amendment to this piece and think on this some more…I’m considering writing a follow-up to it with a more inclusive perspective.

Anyways, again, thank you so much. I truly appreciate your perspective and that you took the time to share that with me. Much love to you.