The way that you worded this is incredibly helpful to me. Incredibly.

I can see some of that in my dad. He has confessed to me how often his friends would talk about my breasts when I was in my twenties and that he felt disgusted and confused by that — and didn’t know what he was supposed to say.

Of course, I want to say, “YOU SHOULD HAVE TOLD THEM THEY WERE BEING INAPPROPRIATE!!!!” But I know that goes against the Bro Code and so maybe it never occurred to him to do that. But…that makes me so sick to know that. The complicity that my own male family members had in the objectification of my body, which is in direct relation to the level of abuse I have experienced from men.