This is incredibly beautiful and vulnerable. And not that it matters what I think, but I think it’s totally reasonable to need to have at least some boundaries if this issue is causing you empathetic pain. Yes, I love the perspective of observing without carrying…and also understand you needing to have some boundaries, too. I think there’s a balance that can be struck in all friendships, if we stretch enough. And you sound like you’re willing to do that, which makes you a pretty amazing friend. ❤