This is intense and vulnerable and amazing.

I have always shared your feelings about not snooping, and so far, I never have. Though I do remember one time when I visited my brother, I sat down at his computer to look up something (with his permission) and saw an open IM between him and my boyfriend (they were best friends). As I was closing the window (I had zero curiosity about their conversation), I noticed a message from my BF that read: "Your sister is batshit crazy and I'm so sick of her right now, I'm gonna lose it."

I was STUNNED. And upset. And hurt. I thought about confronting him about it. I thought about asking my brother about it...

Ultimately, I decided to say nothing because I realized that he had a right to vent about me to his best friend - and lucky me, his bestie was my brother, who would never sit around and take that venting to a deeper level, because he loves and respects me.

Though it made me think yet again of how we vent about our loved ones behind their backs and ways I can do that more responsibly. That's a whole other story, though.

Anyways, I'm so behind you on the money thing. You are bringing home the bacon and way to go and damn straight there would be no issue if you were the guy.

Also, if you feel called to do this, I'd love for you to write more about the dick pic aspect of this story - though not necessarily about that incident. Just about boundaries, in general. I'm so interersted in learning more about poly boundaries and how people build those and what seems reasonable to different couples, etc. Everyone's boundaries are so different, and I find myself curious about that.