This made me cry. It is filled with beauty and love. I've been trying to sort through my feelings about this - I've been so disappointed in her stance and don't want to do anything that might unintentionally support anti-trans or anti-trans-adjacent messaging, but also...like you, I feel the hate going toward JKR is wrong. I know she has received death threats, rape threats, and all kinds of vicious name-calling. NONE of that is okay.
And like you, I see someone in her who is trying to find her way in this.
Which is what we're all doing in all this confusion called Life.
Bless you (in a non-religious way, LOL) for your deep kindness and compassion and the energy of love you just poured into this world when we desperately need it. <3