Tod DuBois I love the exploration of this — good idea for an article, for sure!! :) Ultimately, I believe we are all responsible for our own orgasms, for sure. That said…being a good partner means we also have an obligation to one another. We have to speak up for what we need and want, and then the other has to be willing to listen and engage.

I have never felt that a guy was responsible to get me off. But I did expect that they would help me in the ways I needed. And yes, as I mentioned, that didn’t always work and it wasn’t my partner’s fault. But my ex took my orgasms very seriously and he really went to bat for me, so to speak! :) He tried really hard, both physically and emotionally, to help me be able to focus and get what I needed. We both did our best to advocate for our own pleasure (not always easy for me) and we both tried equally hard to please one another. I think both of those ingredients are really key.

I really do want to write an article on this now! ;) Thank you for the idea!!! And thank you for reading and commenting!