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We Touch Ourselves for Sex, but Do We Touch Ourselves for Love?
How we’re shortchanging ourselves when it comes to self-pleasure
When was the last time you touched yourself? No, I’m not talking about masturbation. I mean literally just touching yourself.
When was the last time you stroked your own arm? The last time you held your own hand? The last time you rubbed your own feet?
We live in a culture that is fixated on externally-focused expressions of touch, connection, and sexuality. We don’t encourage self-touch, or even consider that it counts as touch. Masturbation doesn’t count as sex unless you do it with or in front of a lover.
Touch, we are taught, is confined to what we experience with others.
However, I find this to be an incredibly constrictive mindset. Whether we’re talking about comfort, love, or sex, touching ourselves is so important to our mental, emotional, and sexual health.
If you aren’t regularly touching yourself, then add these items to your self-care routine and you’ll see how important this practice is.
Give Yourself a Massage
I won’t pretend that giving yourself a massage is even close to as good as receiving a massage from another person…
