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Why Women Are Having a Hard Time Experiencing Attraction to Men
It’s time we acknowledge women’s collective trauma — and what that says about heterosexual relationships
It’s been a long time since I’ve felt butterflies in my stomach. I’m not even sure the last time I did, though I’d guess it was in November 2021, when I finally came face-to-face with the man I thought was my boyfriend.
Though looking back, I realize those weren’t butterflies. That was my body responding to the destabilizing influence of his coercive and manipulative behavior.
For a few months after he disappeared from my life even more quickly than he’d thrown himself into it, I often fantasized about a reconciliation, a practice which brought back that feeling of “butterflies.” But that stopped quite suddenly during the following summer, when I reached out to him again and he revealed his true self to me, making it clear our “relationship” had been nothing more than a passing amusement to him.
Since then, almost as if it happened like the flipping of a switch, I have never again experienced romantic feelings or sexual desire. At least not for men.
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