Yeah, you might even be taking a broader view than I am, which makes me feel like a bad feminist. LOL. ;) I guess for me, the name thing is like...drinking the Kool-Aid. It scares me because it seems like such a little thing and it's sold as "unity" and "love" and next thing you know...a woman isn't a separate entity anymore and subjected to all the things you mentioned here. And it all starts with these little steps that we willingly take...

I didn't even get married in my last relationship but I lost myself so completely... I can't imagine what would've happened if we had made it legal and he had insisted I take his name. The thought just makes me feel so lucky that that didn't happen.