Yes, the statistics are about the same when it comes to emotional abuse (which I did not reference in the article for the sake of brevity), whereas there are complicated nuances in the physical violence space that make both of our statements true, depending on whether or not you are talking about sexual assault, domestic violence, etc. However, domestic abuse and sexual assault are widely considered gendered crimes because there is a very real trend in male perpetrators and female victims. When is the last time they found a man in a ditch somewhere because he decided to take a walk after dinner and was raped and killed by a woman? Yet go look in the news and that happens with predictable regularity to women, by men.

I’ve never heard any cultural narrative around men being crazy — on the contrary, it’s women who are stereotyped in that way. Just take a look at pop culture — it’s everywhere. It’s even a punchline or commentary in TV shows and movies. Christina Applegate’s character forcefully objects to the tendency for women to be called crazy in Dead to Me, for example.

As for the other stereotypes, just go look around this platform and the comments that men leave on women’s articles. These are common narratives used to discredit women. I’m not saying no one ever says them about men — but it’s mostly a tactic used on women.