You nailed this. I am actually brainstorming on a piece about this very topic. It’s a struggle for me because I feel like I’m “wrong” somehow for feeling this way. That if I can’t strip sex down to the bone — pleasure and nothing else — then I’m failing. That if I want love, too, it’s too much. Our culture is very black and white about it — fetishizing both hookups and sex-within-marriage, with nothing in between. And men in the dating pool seem to lean toward the hookup. In other words, I think I’m struggling a lot with the pressure from the dominant narrative.

Anyways…I’ll likely be writing about that soon! Thank you so much!